Taking Risks & Talking Tech

I'm sure it's a surprise that I've returned to blogging. The written word in general seems like a novelty in a sea of tech based tools for tarts. For me, the decision came during several meetings with professionals I consulted about my business. A lot are leaning toward Ai content, booking applications and automating just about everything in the realm of customer service. 

I haven't felt seen. Not just in a professional sense dipping in and below the radar, the swarm of new Ai models, bots and providers who have sought the services of marketing "agents". Their results seem nice, more money, less problems with customer relations and managing their socials or interactions. I'm a bit old school. I started escorting when Internet avenues were not exactly new but very few adult industry professionals had utilized social media or their own websites. A few porn stars and their agencies, porn production sites and a lot of mainstream company brands were all you'd find on Twitter. Instagram didn't exist. Myspace was still prominent and FB was a college kid message board. Regional boards and personals ads were what ruled the day. The Erotic Review and Escorts dot com were top dogs. Blogging for your own website was considered an exotic and rare treat. 

I've always enjoyed writing. I'm not a scholar, I'm not exceptional at it and not part of any book or writing clubs to sit with other women and feel smarter. A literal circle jerk to me. I have always kept a diary, that's my style. I wanted that nostalgia back and I want to be in control of my content. I want more traffic here, on a website I made on a platform I don't have to fight against the algorithm on. 

X favors negative posts. The girls who boast about being edgy and interesting have half baked, very bad takes and then they get rewarded for it with attention. Guys complain quietly, but won't stop following. They tell me it's fun to watch the shit show, it's entertaining. Their audience enjoys it and engagement farming with rage bait actually works. It's hard enough to monetize our existence in the social sphere but it's harder to stand out without being an asshole, being materialistic, firing off dozens of dumb or fight worthy posts daily. Do we join in the trending topics or just post photos? It's a daily battle.

Everyone does what works for them. I attract more (good & loyal lovers) with honey. I also know now that I'm not for everyone, I've got niche appeal. Casting a wide net online would be fruitless. Fame with a high number to fans or lots of attention on my posts without money attached would be pointless for my line of work. 

In the early 2010s, my biggest income came from being a shallow, dumb blonde. It was all the rage. Playboy and Hooters still had huge appeal and people were clinging to the all American hot girl with no opinions. A lot of people still do and I don't blame them. Someone easy on the eyes and the mind, no challenges, no politics just raw sex appeal. In 2015 I finally got bored and restless. My battered hair finally had enough too. I gained a little weight (a lot in a healthy way), gave up the disordered eating and disordered thinking. I left the bleach blonde for my natural ginger again (an great economic choice since $700+, all day salon visits weren't my favorite anymore). People found out I'm actually intelligent too. Darker hair and glasses made it hard to ignore the words coming out of my mouth, probably. Many people had no opinion on that, some were thrilled, some turned off. I've never been happier to be free and be me. 

Faking dumb (long-term) is hard, even for an actress. I love and I mean absolutely adore the sex part of being a sex worker. I don't enjoy the trend of trying to be an untouchable, ivy league, pristine trophy wife. Being a bimbo delights me, physically. I love feeling sexy, dressing hot, high heels, lingerie, the intimacy, the rush of a new lover at my door and doing those acronyms (if you know, you know). I'm a slut, a real one. Sue me haha. That certainly used to be enough to seal the deal during the first half of my career, for anyone who was ambitious enough to do this work, not just me. People didn't crave connection or depth in the past, some probably did, but they didn't speak up with a sex worker wrapped around them in the heat of the moment. I didn't give them the opportunity to speak so freely either, lest they know too much about me outside of the physical. 

I am agreeable in conversation, not everything needs to be deep or a debate. I can of course fake it and be the clumsy, silly girl who can't manage her time to the airport well or laugh and laugh with you about the time I picked up the wrong latte order. Under the looks and tits though, there's a lot going on. How you choose to interact and play with that is dealer's choice. 

In an effort to avoid ai virtual assistants doing the connecting for me and churning out content that clearly lacks a human touch, this is what you get instead. I don't have a brand, I don't have a marketing team and I'm refusing to be bound and enslaved to any social media platform for my bread and butter. It worries me for those who are already deep in those trenches. I am considering a return to review culture though. Shocking, I know!

I left TER and my profile on EM is outdated (I would like to change that so input is helpful from those who are active members). I lost a lot (personally and financially) when my reviews were read allowed in a courtroom. Shortly after, I delisted for good before 2015. I'm finally in a position in life that I'm comfortable enough to consider it again. The client opinions on that have been mixed. Some of you greatly appreciate reviews as a valuable resource, but most are very turned off by it these days. 

When the virtual highway to whores was new, detailed reviewing was essential. There was no other way to know what someone was like behind closed doors. We now as professionals need multiple ad websites to carefully verify our ID & our photos (I am going to be waiting for weeks for my annual approval on Tryst) but P we need our own website, several social media pages, videos and countless photos. Our image has to be a perfect blend of professional and selfies. In exchange, fewer men need the erotic descriptions of experiences with us. We will never earn the trust of those determined to stay cautious in this realm. It's dangerous, erotic gambling for anyone on either side of the transaction. Bringing back the human side vs. automated and Ai is all we can really do to continue renewing the faith of our audiences. That's just my humble human opinion though.